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I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas and New Year’s! I know I sure did. Andy and I took about 5 days leave for New Year’s to visit his friends and family down in Louisiana. I’ll recap the trip tomorrow, but I wanted to share with you all the biggest news of all: Andy and I are engaged!
People have asked me why Andy and I chose to get engaged so early in our relationship, at 6 months of dating, and why we want to marry at the 11 month mark. I’ve tried to describe it to people, and I always get strange looks. There’s a number of reasons why: we’re saving intimacy for marriage, and we think if we draw our relationship out we may fall into temptation; there’s always a chance he could deploy and we’d rather marry now and build our marriage with both of us being together instead of waiting until he deploys; we’re both financially and emotionally ready to begin a marriage. But the biggest reason is his job. Andy has faced life-and-death situations, and he knows that life is precious and can be taken in an instant. Why wait to get married just because “society” says you shouldn’t meet and marry within a year, when we know we want to spend the rest of our lives together?
The length of the courtship doesn’t always determine the fate of your marriage. You could date for 5 years and still end up divorced, and you can date for a few months and spend a lifetime together. My mother’s biggest fear is that I’ll end up like her and my father, and I’ll admit, the thought has crossed my mind a time or two. But Andy and I have something that my parents didn’t– a relationship founded in Christ. I believe that through God, our relationship will last.