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I can’t believe it’s been an entire week since I’ve written a post. No explanation, just a disappearance. I’ve never done that before. I could blame it on the fact I was switching my site over from Blogger to WordPress, but that isn’t all of the truth. Part of it (this switch has been a less-than-positive experience, to say the least), but not all of it.
The fact is, I didn’t know what to say. I could pretend that my life is going great, and it is for the most part. But honestly, I’m still really struggling with not having a job.
I interviewed for a part-time HR Assistant position last week. The job posting was identical to my job description at my old employer. I interviewed for it, and I think the interview went well… until they asked why I left my old employer without a job lined up. I said my typical response, “Family.” And it’s true. Andy is my family. The interviewer asked, “Are you a military family?”
I only have 3 options when I’m asked this. 1) Lie. Either “no, we’re not military” or “we are, but we just moved here and have orders to be here for 4-5 more years.” Both of which are not true. (Our next PCS is slated for early 2018 or even late 2017.) 2) Say, “Yes, we are.” Which always results in the “Well, we’re looking for someone long term. Thanks for your interest, but…” or 3) Refuse to answer the question. Which is the same as saying yes, because if you’re not a military family, you would just say “No I’m not.”
I finally got a call back from that interview last week. They said I was a strong candidate, and they went back-and-forth for days about whether to hire me or a different candidate. Ultimately, they chose the different candidate because this person “lives in Elizabethtown.” Considering I have a Fort Knox address listed on my resume, I think that may be an influence on their decision. Please, tell me I’m under-qualified or you’ve found a stronger candidate, just please don’t tell me because it’s where I live. Just like I can’t help that my husband is military, I can’t help that we live on a military base. We would never be able to afford a house this nice off-base.
I met with someone on-post who helps spouses find employment. Basically, I have two options: 1) be willing to work outside of my Human Resources career field– which I’m against, because it will be more difficult to find an HR job in the future if I stray from the career path or 2) commute to Louisville for an HR job– which Andy and I are both don’t really like because of the 1.5 hour commute each way + heavy traffic on the “Dixie Die-way” (#1 road in the state for traffic accidents and fatalities.)
I didn’t write this post to be a negative Nancy, just to explain what I’m struggling with and why I’ve been absent from blogging.