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Although I didn’t formally participate in Kait from CommuniKait’s September Blogging Challenge, one of the prompts she shared inspired me to think and share my thoughts. “Where I See Myself in 10 Years.” What a loaded question!
My first thought was to immediately do the math on how far Andy will be into his Army career. He’s at 6.5 years now, so in this scenario, he’d be at 16.5 years, just 3.5 years short of retirement. But then I asked myself, Well, what if Andy doesn’t want to make the Army his career? What if, for some reason, he gets out before hitting the “magical” 20-year mark? What would we want our lives to look like? So, for this post, I’m going to assume that Andy’s no longer active-duty and we’re living our happy civilian lives like I’ve imagined so many times whenever I feel frustrated with the military. (Yes, I know the grass is always greener, but I know I’m not the only person who imagines “what if”!)
Ten years from now, I’ll be 36 while Andy will be 37. Our pets, Gracie and Lily, will both be 13. We’ll be celebrating our 12th wedding anniversary, although I hope we are still so in love that we act like newlyweds.
Anyone that knows me knows I am my “best self” when I’m working, and frankly, I am a hot mess of depression and self-pity when I don’t have the 9-5 to look forward to every day. I love having an identity outside of my marriage. I love using my brain in a way that I can do only while employed. I firmly believe God has given me talents and a passion for working, and I want to use them for His purpose. Although it is difficult maintaining my own professional career with my husband’s military career, I am not-so-secretly itching for the day when my career takes priority over his. My professional experience is related to the Human Resources field, which I truly love, but I honestly have so many passions that it’s hard to settle on just one! (In college, the career counselor took a look at my career inventory and noted how I would have difficulty picking a career because I have such varied passions and would excel at nearly anything!) My dream before I married Andy was to work for LifeWay’s corporate offices or Compassion International, and although that dream hasn’t changed, what’s more important than where I work is what the company culture is like. I want to work for a company that respects work/life balance and encourages employees to continue developing themselves through mentorship programs and continuing education incentives. Also, it would be nice if I could have unlimited time off 😉
As I’ve gotten older and closer to “the age where I’m finally an adult and ready to have kids,” the more it terrifies me! I’ve said before that I don’t think I would make a good mother, but I’m sure if and when I did have kids, I would learn as I go and be better than I had expected. Andy and I feel that God has called us to influence others outside of our immediate family, and so we’re open to the idea of fostering, adopting, or mentoring children someday. Andy was homeschooled and loved it while I was public-schooled and didn’t have a great experience, so we’re both leaning towards homeschooling or private Christian schooling for our future kiddos. If one of us were to be a stay-at-home parent, without a doubt, it would be Andy. He is great at cooking and cleaning, and I always joke that he can quit the Army and be my housewife 😉
Where We’d Live
In the future, whenever our Army adventure is over, we plan to move back to Kentucky, although we’re not sure exactly where. Maybe near Land Between the Lakes or Murray (where I went to college), or maybe near my hometown of Owensboro. We would build our “dream house” on a big plot of land in the woods, far away from neighbors. The land would have a lake, apple orchard, private trails for hiking, and plenty of places for our future dogs to explore. We’d be far enough from civilization that people would leave us alone, but close enough to the city that I would have an easy commute to work and that we could still have fun experiences like shopping or going to concerts. Our dream house would have a jacuzzi bathtub and gigantic walk-in closet in the master suite, and a sunroom so that I could sit “outside” when it’s not quite warm enough to be really outside. The living room, dining room, and kitchen would be open so that we could more easily entertain (and of course, we’d have a guest room.) I’d have an office with built-in bookshelves filled with so many books that it would make Belle from Beauty and the Beast jealous! But, our dream house wouldn’t be too big, because someone would still have to clean it 😉
Although we’re not jet-setters by any means, we do enjoy traveling and experiencing new places and activities. So far our current travel experiences have been domestic with just 2 Caribbean vacations, but we would love to travel to Europe someday. I see us as more of the “travel cruise” type over the “backpacking” type. That being said, we do enjoy hiking and camping and being in nature, so we would also love to rent an RV and travel to all of the national parks. (In fact, we have a small investment fund started for making that dream a reality.)
My Ultimate Wish
Most importantly, more than all of these things and goals, I hope that I continue to focus on what’s important: my Christian faith and my love of family and community. In the end, it doesn’t matter what you do, where you live, or where you’ve traveled, but how you love God and love people.
I’m really excited to see what the next ten years bring. I certainly never predicted my life would look like this, but God has a plan better than I have for myself!
Where do you see yourself in 10 years?